FUNERAL FLOWER ETIQUETTE
CHOOSING YOUR FUNERAL FLOWERS
Funeral flowers are a traditional way to pay tribute to the deceased, however some people hesitate to send flowers to a funeral because they are unsure of the proper etiquette. We're here to help with a handy guide on how to choose funeral flowers. Here are some things to consider when choosing funeral flowers for a loved one.
YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO THE DECEASED
Your relationship to the deceased will determine what type of funeral tribute is most appropriate to send. Typically funeral etiquette dictates that:
Flowers for the casket are chosen by the immediate family.
Other relatives and close friends have a wide range of options and may choose from wreaths, hearts, cushions or custom tributes to honour the personality of the deceased.
Friends and colleagues may choose a spray or sheaf arrangement.
THE FAITH OF THE DECEASED AND THEIR FAMILY
Funeral etiquette varies from faith to faith. What may be appropriate in one culture may not be in another. To avoid unintentional upset it is important to be sensitive to the faith of the deceased and their family before ordering funeral flowers. As a guide:
CatholicAll types of flower arrangements are welcome
Protestant ChristianAll types of flower arrangements are welcome.
MormonMost flowers are appropriate but avoid tributes in the shape of a cross.
JewishIt is not customary to send flowers to a Jewish funeral or to the family home during shiva (the first 7 days following the funeral).
HinduAlthough most floral arrangements are accepted, garlands are more commonly worn at a Hindu funeral.
MuslimIt is considered good etiquette to seek consent from family members before sending flowers to an Islamic funeral.
THE FAMILY'S WISHES
Some families will ask for charitable donations instead of flowers. This will usually be stated in any obituary notices or funeral announcements that appear in your local newspaper. If this is the case then it is good etiquette to follow the family's wishes.
EXPERT ADVICE FROM YOUR FLORIST
Selecting a fitting funeral flowers tribute requires careful thought and consideration. This is where the advice and guidance of your local Interflora florist can prove invaluable. Our experienced florists will be able to talk you through the various different types of funeral flower arrangements and help you choose a profound and heartfelt tribute to the deceased. They are also likely to have a working relationship with your local funeral directors so will be able to liaise with them on your behalf to answer any questions you may have with regards to when and where the flowers need to be delivered.
THE LANGUAGE OF FLOWERS
A funeral is one occasion where the meaning of flowers is more signifcant than ever. The traditional language of flowers provides a way to express your feelings and send a meaningful message. Top funeral flowers include:
Roses represent love, happiness, hope and new beginnings.
Lilies represent innocence, majesty and purity.
Carnations represent devotion and remembrance.
Gerbera represent innocence and purity.
Don't forget that flowers can take on different meanings depending on their colour. A red rose for example symbolises ever-lasting love while a pink rose represents grace and elegance.
INCLUDING A MESSAGE OF CONDOLENCE
If you send flowers to a funeral, always include a card so that the family know who the flowers are from. While it can be difficult to compose a sympathy card message at such a difficult time, a few kind words of remembrance or comfort are all that is needed. If you need a little help to get started take a look at our list of funeral flower messages for inspiration.
INCLUDING A MESSAGE OF CONDOLENCE
Casket sprays are placed directly on top of the coffin. These are often large, diamond-shaped tributes. In most instances the casket spray is chosen by immediate family or the person arranging the funeral.
Sprays and sheafs
A spray or sheaf arrangement looks very similar to a hand-tied bouquet but is designed to lay flat, making it practical for lying next to the casket or graveside. It is suitable for any mourner to send a spray or sheaf style funeral arrangement.
The traditional circular design of wreaths is a popular choice and often selected to symbolise never ending love and emotion.
Hearts and cushions
Heart-shaped, rectangular or square designs are often chosen as tributes from close relatives.
Posies and baskets
A round dome-shaped design, the delicate Posy is a popular choice from younger children or from distant relatives.